Redefining Your Relationship with Money: The A.B.U.N.D.A.N.C.E. Process
If you’re drowning in financial stress, feeling like your paycheck is just a lifeline keeping you afloat, you’re not alone. But here’s the truth you might not want to hear: Your relationship with money is the one relationship you’re in control of. And until you get that, you're going to keep running in circles, wishing for more, yet never quite reaching it.
Here’s the good news: It doesn’t have to be this way. I’ve developed a process that has radically shifted how I interact with money—one that’s empowered me to stop chasing it and start attracting it. The process? I call it the A.B.U.N.D.A.N.C.E. Process. And, spoiler alert: It’s not about earning more (though that’s always nice). It’s about changing the way you think about money. Let’s break it down.
What is A.B.U.N.D.A.N.C.E.?
This isn’t some get-rich-quick scheme (if that’s what you’re looking for, keep scrolling). A.B.U.N.D.A.N.C.E. is an acronym I created to help you shift your mindset about money, and by extension, your life. It’s about embracing abundance—not just in your bank account, but in your thoughts, your actions, and your life. And yes, it's time to stop believing that money is the root of all evil or that you're somehow unworthy of wealth. Ready for this? Here’s the breakdown:
A: Awareness
What limiting beliefs about money am I currently holding?
Awareness is the first step to change, and you can’t change what you don’t see. I had to sit down (uncomfortably, I might add) and get real about the stories I was telling myself about money. "Money doesn’t grow on trees," "Wealthy people are greedy," "I’ll never be rich." Yep, I had them all. Once I recognized these beliefs, I realized I’d been living in a self-imposed scarcity prison. Time to bust out.
B: Beliefs
What does financial abundance mean to me personally?
Here’s the kicker: Financial abundance isn’t just about piling up cash—it’s about feeling empowered, secure, and free. For me, abundance means peace of mind, the freedom to make choices without feeling financially restricted, and the ability to give back. So, define what it means for you. Get clear on what abundance looks like, and stop settling for anything less.
U: Unlock Gratitude
What aspects of my financial situation am I truly grateful for?
Yes, gratitude. I know, I know. It’s easy to scoff and think it sounds like something from a Pinterest board, but practicing gratitude has been game-changing. It’s about shifting your focus from “I’m not there yet” to “Hey, look at all I do have!” Whether it's a steady paycheck or the freedom to make your own schedule, own it. I promise, this simple shift can change your outlook on everything.
N: Nurture Passions
What activities bring me joy and can lead to financial opportunities?
Stop chasing money like it’s a finish line. Seriously. It’s time to ask yourself: What brings me joy? What lights me up? Once I stopped running after cash and focused on what I love—whether it was coaching, speaking, or creating—I found that opportunities came knocking. Money follows passion, not the other way around.
D: Decide on Action
What inspired steps can I take today to move toward my financial goals?
This isn’t about making a huge leap—unless you want to. But baby steps work too. I set one small, inspired goal every week. One small action that brought me closer to my vision. It could be as simple as setting a budget, making an investment, or networking with someone new. Whatever feels right for you, take that step. If you’re not moving forward, you’re just standing still. And standing still doesn’t get you anywhere, trust me.
A: Associate Positively
Who in my circle has a healthy relationship with money that I can learn from?
I’m sorry, but if your friends are all about complaining and comparing credit card debt, it’s time for a new circle. Surround yourself with people who inspire you. Who are doing the things you want to do? Who are navigating money with confidence and ease? Find those people. Ask them questions. You don’t have to reinvent the wheel, just learn from those who are already living the life you want.
N: Navigate Resources
What books, podcasts, or workshops can I explore to enhance my understanding of money?
I’m a big fan of continuous learning—because money is a moving target. The best part? You don’t have to spend a fortune to learn. Books, podcasts, free resources—there’s no shortage of them. For me, You Are a Badass at Making Money by Jen Sincero has been a total game-changer. It’s practical, fun, and packed with no-nonsense advice on how to stop holding yourself back when it comes to wealth. Invest in your knowledge—because the better you understand money, the easier it is to make it work for you.
C: Celebrate Progress
How can I acknowledge and celebrate my financial achievements, no matter how small?
Here’s the deal: Celebrating progress isn’t just about popping champagne bottles (though, I’m not going to stop you). It’s about acknowledging every little win. Did you stick to your budget for a week? Celebrate. Did you finally pay off that credit card? Celebrate. No achievement is too small to acknowledge. It all adds up. And trust me, you’ll feel better every time you do.
E: Embrace Change
What changes am I willing to make in my financial habits to support my new mindset?
Change isn’t optional—it’s necessary. Old habits die hard, but if you’re truly committed to shifting your mindset, you have to embrace new financial practices. Whether that’s rethinking your spending habits, ditching old beliefs, or exploring new ways to invest, the willingness to evolve is the key to moving forward.
Final Thoughts
The A.B.U.N.D.A.N.C.E. Process has transformed the way I approach money. I’m no longer in a scarcity mindset, desperately chasing after more. Instead, I’ve shifted my focus to aligning with abundance—and it’s been a game-changer. This mindset has allowed me to reach new heights in my career, and even step into some serious entrepreneurial opportunities (yes, like becoming a minority owner of a professional sports team).
Here’s the thing: Financial abundance isn’t about the number of zeros in your bank account. It’s about the mindset you cultivate around money. It’s about living with joy, freedom, and confidence. And it all starts with a decision.
So, go ahead—embrace the A.B.U.N.D.A.N.C.E. Process. Take action, shift your mindset, and watch how money begins to chase you. Trust me, it works.
